Archive for March, 2010

The Johari Window: Almost Jedi Mind-Control

Posted By damien on March 31st, 2010
Young Jedi Padawan

image courtesy of turoczy

Time for another big idea in a bite-size portion.  Some would say that an honest person, a person with integrity, will act the same no matter the situation. But I believe that someone can be the same person, can be their authentic self, and still act differently depending in their situation.

I agree that a person with integrity will be honest in all situations, but I don’t think someone has to act the same in every situation.  Do you act the same way around your in-laws as you do with your guy or girlfriends?

Probably not. In fact, I’m going to propose that in order to succeed in business and personal interactions, you need to adjust your behavior based on the audience.  A person who is the same to all people will fail.

Let me explain.

The Window to Your Soul (oooh…ahhh)

I’m going to assume you are pretty relaxed around your pals but clean up your language around the mother-in-law.  In fact, you probably don’t tell the same jokes in both settings.  What you may not know, is that by adjusting your behavior based on the situation, you are implementing a “sophisticated” psychological model called the Johari Window.

The Johari Window basically states that we each have a window of “openness” somewhere along the scale of complete introvert on up to uninhibited extrovert.

An Accountant and Car Salesman Walk Into a Bar…

If we want to take business stereotypes, an accountant would generally have a more closed Johari Window, meaning they were less open to unknown people or situations.  A sales rep on the other hand, would have a wide open window, sharing all sorts of personal information with new acquaintances.

I say that successful communication in business and personal settings depends on our ability to adjust our Johari Window to our audience.  If we open it wide up around some accountants, we will make them feel uncomfortable and probably stifle the conversation.

On the other hand, if we keep it closed at a meeting of sales reps, they will probably think us a bore and move on to more interesting conversation.

One thing to keep in mind is that our Johari Windows are not fixed throughout the day.  They are naturally more open around our best friends and at home.  They close a bit when we’re around new people or in unfamiliar territory.

Use the Force, Luke

Here are a few pointers when trying to assess another’s Johari Window:

  • How loudly do they talk?
  • How close are they standing to you?
  • How expressive are they? Do they keep their arms folded or talk with their hands?

By adjusting your actions to match your audience’s window, you will put them at ease and further the conversation.  Your business meetings will run smoother and you will make friends faster.

Now don’t say I never taught you the ways of the Jedi.

DMM: Free Music, Guide to Making Money Online

Posted By damien on March 29th, 2010

Like Manna from Heaven

Welcome to the first ever edition of Digital Manna Monday.  Everyone else seems to share their link roundups on Fridays, so I decided to do it at the beginning of the week; hopefully it will ease the pain of Mondays.

Here I share links to some of my favorite online happenings from the past week.  They could be news articles, blog posts or cool new services.

Whatever they may be, they’re all digital manna: online gifts of illumination and enlightenment.

The Simple Guide to Making Money Online

Everett Bogue is one of the leading voices in the Minimalist community.  In this informative post, he breaks down the steps to making money online with a blog and information products.

The timing was perfect, since I just released my first (free) information product The Minimalist Guide to Investing.  I plan to use Everett’s instructions as a blueprint for my next information product.

TripIt.com

This is one awesome free service.  TripIt is an online itinerary planner.  We are using it to plan our trip to NYC this May.

Set up a free account, email your flight plans to plans@tripit.com and they import everything: flight numbers, confirmation numbers, dates and times.  Then you can import the TripIt itinerary into your calendar (Gcal, Outlook, etc.).  Really loving this service.

LOVE from Angels and Airways

Awesome new album from one of my favorite bands.  The best part is that AvA is offering the album for FREE.  Click on the link and download it instantly.

Don’t worry, it’s legit–I downloaded it a few weeks ago and haven’t had any issues.

The Minimalist Path

Dave Damron runs a great blog about simplifying life and enjoying the present.  While there, check out my guest post What Minimalism Is NOT.

11 Unofficial Rules of Texting

Brant Choate is an expert on Generation Y (Millenials) and how they interact with other generations.  Read his funny instructions on the how-to’s of texting.  I know I’ve broken a few of these…

That’s it for this week.  Have any great links you would like me to share next time?  Shoot me an email at damien[at]bitesizeidea[dot]com

4 Reasons to Switch to a Paperless System

Posted By damien on March 25th, 2010

Save the trees

Going paper-free means using technology to streamline and improve your life.  It means getting rid of excess physical junk and using digital resources to organize your home or workplace.  But what’s the big deal?  What advantages are there to moving to a paper-free way of life?  In short, why be paper-free?

Following are a few reasons you should switch to a paperless system and why, if you don’t, you are wasting your time, living space and our planet’s wonderful resources.

De-clutter Your Life

Are you overwhelmed with file cabinets full of statements, letters or other paper documents?  Or maybe you aren’t even that organized—maybe your desktop is your document storage center (I have seen my share of these).  The first apartment my wife and I lived in was under 300 square feet, causing us to look for creative ways to store our paper documents.  We learned that instead of looking for ways to store them, if we got rid of them and found digital alternatives, then the paper documents wouldn’t clutter our living space at all.

Archive and Access Your Records Intelligently

Remember the Dewey decimal system?  It was the cabinet full of cards in the library that told you where to find books on shelves—so last century.  What is your system for organizing and searching through your paper documents?

Whatever it is, it’s probably not even close to the efficiency level of the Dewey decimal system.

And the Dewey decimal system is like a three-legged dog in a race compared to digital storage and retrieval.  In fact, archiving and searching of digital documents is lightning fast and laser accurate.  Using (free) services such as Gmail and Google Docs you can archive documents and search for them at millisecond speed.

Reduce Your Consumption of Trees

From the website PayItGreen.org:

The PayItGreen Alliance is a coalition of financial services companies…committed to educating consumers and businesses about the positive environmental impact of choosing electronic payments, bills, and statements instead of paper.

PayItGreen has lots of great facts about the environmental impact of going paperless, here is one that I love:  by switching to online financial statements, one household can save 6.6 pounds of paper per year.

The pessimists and naysayers will counter by saying that 6.6 pounds of paper per year isn’t that much of a savings.  They’ll say that your puny efforts are meaningless.

They are partly correct.

One single household saving 6.6 pounds of paper isn’t much in the grand scheme of things.  But imagine what could happen if 100 people did it? Or 1,000? Or even 10,000?

Making a real difference in this world is all about catching the vision and helping others join in.

That’s the problem with naysayers: they are too busy disputing to catch the vision.  Be proactive, be optimistic, catch the vision!

Keep Your Sensitive Information More Secure

According to Wells Fargo, nearly 85% of identity theft cases originate from paper statements such as bank statements or bills.  Nearly eighty-five percent! By switching your sensitive data to online sources (e.g. bank statements), it is protected by layers of passwords, encryption, and other forms of security.

In this digital age, with Hollywood and the media glamorizing hackers and other cyber-criminals, one can get the skewed impression that digital methods are the weapon of choice for identity thieves.  Don’t get me wrong, identity theft does happen online, but dumpster diving is still one of the simplest and most prevalent forms of identity theft.

Man vs. Stuff: How I Win the Battle

Posted By damien on March 23rd, 2010
Guess shoes

image courtesy of Terri-Ann Hanlon

“Just buy them, they’re on sale!”

“But you don’t need them!”

The angel and devil on my shoulders were arguing again.  I was standing in the Mecca of Materialism, the shopping mall, eyeing some shiny new Guess brand shoes.  No matter I had 12 other pairs at home, these ones were calling to me.

After a brief struggle, Stuff won the battle and I walked out of the store carrying some shoes I didn’t need with money that wasn’t in the budget.

Where was my will power? Chalk another victory up to Stuff.  It seemed that in the war of Man vs. Stuff, I was getting owned, annihilated!  Why did I have to keep buying things when I already had more than enough?

Somehow, along the road of life, I had convinced myself that stuff made me happy.  I thought that things gave me fulfillment.

I was wrong.

If that were true, if stuff really did make me happy, then why did I rush back to the stores every weekend looking for new stuff?  Didn’t the stuff I bought the weekend before make me happy?  I guess not anymore.

For some reason, this equation of stuff = happiness just wasn’t working out.  What was I really looking for?  What would truly make me happy for the long term?

Living, Instead of Merely Consuming

It turns out that what I was really looking for was “self-actualization” as Maslow calls it in his hierarchy of needs.  To be truly happy, I needed to create, to contribute, to make a difference.

This is how I win the war of Me vs. Stuff.  Through creative outlets such as writing and web design, I express myself and find contentment.  I am able to achieve a state of flow, where time flies by unwatched and I become absorbed in the work.

Stuff is important.  We need Stuff to eat, wear, and shelter us.  But we need more than stuff to make us happy.  We need to create, contribute, and express ourselves.

How do you win the war against stuff?

5 Life Lessons I Learned from Yoga

Posted By damien on March 18th, 2010
Warrior II Pose

image courtesy of a4gpa. Taken on Mt. Timpanogos, Utah

I realize that after a string of personal finance and investing posts, to have one about the benefits of yoga is quite a change! To some of you who come here for advice about investing, this post may seem a bit new-agey, a bit fluffy.  But my commitment is to bring you big ideas in bite size portions, no matter the source.

In the few years I have been practicing, yoga has improved my life in ways I doubt I could find anywhere else.  Now that my wife does it too, yoga is something we enjoy together that enriches our relationship.  Here I will show you five lessons (there are probably more) that yoga has taught me about life in general.

Breathe

In yoga, the breath is the measurement of every action.  Movement follows the breath’s pace.  Time is not counted in the artificial constructs of minutes and hours, but in the natural, organic breath.  Most yogis discourage having clocks in the studio, allowing the yoga session to advance naturally.

Besides breathing exercises to help calm or energize, yoga’s focus on the breath has taught me to pay more attention to the rhythms and cycles of my body, rather than the dictates of the clock.  Your body will tell you what you need better than the clock or other artificial measures we tell ourselves (or society tells us) to follow.

Exist in the Now

One of my favorite yoga poses, Warrior 2, has the practitioner spread their arms wide with the hands pointing in front of and behind them.  This pose is meant to symbolize the practitioner’s existence in the now.  The hand pointing behind is our reminder of the past, where we have come from.  The hand in front points us to the future, to what we will do and become.

And we are in the middle, in the present, where we can act and use the past to chart out our futures.  Personally, I have a fixation on the future.  No matter where I am or what I’m doing,  if I do not consciously focus on what I’m engaged in, my mind drifts to what I’ll do next and what needs to be done after that (and after that, and on and on).

Yoga taught me this lesson that is now a popular saying:

You pile up enough tomorrows, and you’ll find you’ve collected a lot of empty yesterdays.

Simplicity is Key

How much equipment do you need to practice yoga?  Only two things: your body and your mat.  By stripping away the extraneous stuff, yoga practitioners focus on the essential.

Emerson said, “Things are in the saddle and ride mankind.”  Try ridding yourself of some of your excess stuff and magically see how much more you can focus on the essentials: relationships, health, and faith.

Be Aware

Removing all distractions, yoga forces you to focus on your body.  The breath, the movement of muscles, the strain of difficult poses.  It connects the mid to the body.

Like I said before, my natural tendency is to think about the future and neglect the present.  Yoga reminds me to direct my energy to what is happening now. What am I doing? What am I feeling? Who am I with? What are they feeling?  I can testify to the fact that being aware and engaged in the present leads to a richer life experience.

Let Go

One of the main focuses of yoga is flexibility of the body and mind.  In order to achieve the more difficult poses,  the mind has to let go of doubt and the muscles have to let go of strain.  The practice of actively telling one’s muscles to let go, to loosen up and live, has a parallel in what must be told to the mind and heart.

Some of the previous lessons tie into this one.  By focusing on the breath and body we let go of artificial measures.  By existing in the now, we let go of worry about the future. We let go of  our regret about or yearning for the past.

What Has Yoga Taught You About Life?

I am barely into my yoga journey, but already it has improved my physical, mental and emotional health.  What about you? Do you practice yoga? What has yoga taught you about life?

Tech Files: How to Keep Your PC Running Fast & Clean

Posted By damien on March 16th, 2010

Computer Problems

As the resident tech person among my family and friends,  I get tons of requests to fix up slow computers.  Most requests go something like this:

Damien,  my computer is running really slow!  My kids have been on it, I don’t know what they did, but they surf around everywhere and download everything they come across.  Help me!

In my PC repair toolbox,  I have one absolutely indispensable piece of software.  It’s called CCleaner.  It cleans unwanted files from computers and helps them run better.

So today, instead of giving you a fish (fixing your computer) I’m going to teach you how to fish (fix your PC yourself).  The first video will show you how to download and install CCleaner.  The second video will show you how to use CCleaner to remove unwanted junk from your PC.

How to Download and Install CCleaner

How to Use CCleaner

I hope these videos help you keep your PC running smooth.

What software do you use to maintain your computer?

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